Monday, January 07, 2008

2008: Building A Mystery.

Last year, I came across ladder theory. It's probably not 100% true, but the jist of its message is true. In past relationships, I've made just about every mistake in the book . It's not about being nice or naughty. It's not about friendship. It's not just about communication. It's complex. And most ladies dont know what they are attracted to even if you ask them - but when push comes to shove, nature takes over and they will instinctively know what they want - even if they cant put it in words. From one of my favourite albums, Mirrorball, Sarah McLachlan describes what all women intuitively desire.

Sarah McLachlan - Building a Mystery

You come out at night. That's when the energy comes. And the dark side's light .
And the vampires roam. You strut your rasta wear. And your suicide poem(1).
And a cross from a faith that died. Before Jesus came. You're building a mystery.

You live in a church. Where you sleep with voodoo dolls (2). And you won't give up the search.
For the ghosts in the halls
. You wear sandals in the snow (3). And a smile that won't wash away
Can you look out the window. Without your shadow getting in the way (4)?

You're so beautiful. With an edge and charm. but so careful. When I'm in your arms.
Cause you're working. Building a mystery. Holding on and holding it in (5).
Yeah you're working. Building a mystery. And choosing so carefully.

You woke up screaming aloud. A prayer from your secret god. You feed off our fears.
And hold back your tears, oh. Give us a tantrum. And a know it all grin (6).
Just when we need one. When the evening's thin.

You're a beautiful
, A beautiful fvcked up man (7).
You're setting up your
Razor wire shrine

The pic above, from the ladder theory homepage summarizes it nicely. Money/Power actually refers to social dominance (3) (6). It doesnt matter if you're austin powers, a biker gang leader, or a high priced lawyer. What matters is that you must be at the top of your game. In the modern world, social dominance is almost impossible to achieve without money. Yet if you asked a woman, she would probably tell you that she looks for intellegence, honesty, sensitivity etc. That's BS. Those adjectives unfortunately fall within the yellow 10% part of the pie.

A breakdown of attraction:
  • Physical attraction / Looks - pretty much self explanatory (7)
  • Disinterest - while it may be the antithesis of interest, directly expressing interest in a woman instantly removes that image of social dominance men work so hard to build. You must never turn into a soft whiny wuss kneeling at a woman's knees - confiding every thought and feeling that comes to your mind. A woman could only pursue a man who's running away. (4) (5)
  • Novelty - Why are you unlike every other Joe, Tom, Dick, and Harry? (1) (2)

Do you realize I have just given the breakdown for the definition of an α-male ?

Ezra - building a mystery. laugh.gif

Offtopic: I finally figured how to get smileys to display properly. I took 2 #!%*@#!# hours to figure out how to make Angry Angry AngryAngry appear in the center of a line of text. w00t.


  1. for one, you are not an alpha male..

    Alpha male does not need to define what/who he is..

    Alpha male is not a theory concept or some knowledge you can just demystify..

    Alpha male is about the character..the person..the experience..the practicals..

    You are still in kindergarten...stay there..where A is theory...

  2. I have never claimed to be anything.

    You're an idiot.

    You cant read.

    Dear readers: Please note this post is outdated (even the link is broken lol). So please refer to The Real Game of Love for a more recent opinion on the issue.